This thesis "you are what you think" is very popular of late -- -- it does bring into question, however, all the people who blame past events on their current circumstances -- and these past events usually entail other people as culprits. Whether true or not, I think dwelling on past negative events, no matter how awful, is detrimental to a person's development and happiness - but it seems to be something that is accepted as a norm in society now - when in fact the event may have had little significance and is only an excuse for poor mental wellbeing.