This is very complicated, Jody -- I have seen it first hand, yet the woman is in love so stays [she is spoken down to like a tramp - so must believe it] -- Anyway, I hate drunks [unles they can handle it] and I bait them, I try to fight with them -- I'm only saying this because I'm now angry having read your article - Anyway, apart from that, I think what the doctor was saying to you, is as my mother says -- if anybody ever touched her, let alone hit her, they would never see her again -- nobody ever touched her - not that my father would even dream of it -- anyway, I think that was what the doctor was saying to you -- why the hell do you let him do it - tell him the rules, once they're breached - see yah forever!