It is unfortunate that so many people come to the realization that they didn't love their "partner" after all -- this should be worked out prior to marriage -- that said, there appear to be so many distractions and "grass-is-greener" scenarios that marriage is doomed from the beginning. Until my brother -- there was only one divorce in my extended family and the court proceedings, etc, always made for interesting listening - cross examinations, etc -- lol -- turns out it was all a charade !