I'm with you Jessey -- we don't always get what we want but if you try sometimes you might love the one you're with -- No! I'm mixing my metaphors AND song lyrics now -- unforgivable! But jokes aside -- If being comfortable is not negotiable, and you can bear your partner -- which in itself is a kind of love -- else you CAN'T bear them -- then I agree it's a good partnership of which there are very few -- sure it's not the ideal -- but hoodwinking yourself with 'ideals' is a recipe that leads to multiple marriages, and about the same amount of divorces -- [which I really don't get, personally] -- I mean is marriage so important that you're willing to have several of them -- Isn't the definition of insanity making the same mistake over and over!